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and how it can change everything

Nobody loves standing in long security lines, and I don’t know one person who is thrilled by the fact that most airline seats only recline about four inches, if you’re lucky.

But I do know people who love to travel, door to door — not just when they arrive at their resort. I know people who almost always have a great flight, no matter what. I’ve talked to people whose trips got rained out, or who missed connecting flights, or who got lost, or who even had passports stolen — and when I ask them how their trip was, they smile and say, “It was great!” and proceed to tell me the full exciting tale. And I’m one of those people too!

So what’s the secret? I’ll tell you: let go of the Perfectionist Mindset and adopt the Adventure Mindset.

The difference between these two paradigms changes everything.

The Perfectionist sets unrealistically high expectations for themselves, others, and situations — and when things don’t go well, they often fall into self-blame or blaming others. The Adventurer makes a plan and is prepared, but is willing to roll with what comes along that might not fit with “The Plan.”

The Perfectionist often avoids risk and only goes with the obvious path in an attempt to avoid “failure.” The Adventurer is less concerned with control and more interested in creative approaches and critical thinking when it comes to problem solving.

The Perfectionist focuses on what isn’t working and is often impatient and critical. The Adventurer sees what’s going well and what there is to be grateful for and is quick to offer appreciation, flexibility, and help in tough situations.

What to do when faced with a Challenge

As author and coach Naomi Teeter points out, the Adventurer knows how to ask “quality questions” when faced with a challenge, questions like:

  • What’s the best thing that could happen from this?
  • Hasn’t everything worked out just fine in the past? Aren’t I OK?
  • What if I chose to be happy and carefree about this instead?
  • What is this teaching me?
  • How can I use this experience to support others?
  • How could I turn this into a great story?
  • What can I do differently next time so that this doesn’t happen?

If I’m honest with myself, I know that there are times I fall into the Perfectionist Mindset, in travel and in life. But I also know that at any moment, I can choose something different.

While I do plan where we are going and what to do when we get there, those unexpected finds along the way, and unplanned detours can be even more rewarding. Like seeing the cows come home from pasture at the end of summer in a cattle parade in Switzerland (Alpabzug) and Austria (Almabtrieb)!

I can always choose an attitude of adventure while exploring. And as a lifelong traveler, that has made all the difference.

If you’re ready to plan your next great adventure, I’d love to help you get there. You can contact me today by clicking here for your 30-minute Complementary Love to Explore Vacation Planning Session.

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